The Velvet Bulldozer wins again
I’m sat with a celebratory cup of tea and a Twirl (it’s a little early for Gin), rejoicing in Velvet Bulldozing my way into getting the provision I wanted for Freddie’s speech and language sessions at school.
Last time I met with his SALT, I was informed that she thought as he was ‘doing ok’ he didn’t require the provision we had agreed on before school started last year. To say I was disappointed is an understatement. The thought of having to go in again and fight again for it was really frustrating. However, his SALT at the time was retiring so I decided we could all start a fresh. Every cloud and all that. I contacted the Head of Speech and Language for SN schools, we had met before, and expressed my desire for a meeting with the new team. I shared how I felt about the current situation and what I wanted to see happen. My well formed outcomes.
The new SALT staff are very nice, a little overwhelmed with their caseload but with a caring and positive attitude. Things I knew I had in my favour were that I had an existing relationship with the Head of SALT and I like her very much. She is professional and organised, she listens and always confirms the agreed actions. She also isn’t put off my my direct nature. Phew. I went in prepared with notes and because I had set out what I wanted ahead of time, they weren’t going be surprised or unable to make a decision, positive or negative, at the time of the meeting.
I do have high hopes for this fresh start with a new team. I might have gone one step too far at the end and frightened the Senior SLT when I made clear (velvety clear) that I really just wanted his school team to be working together with his teachers and me and championing him every step of the way. Ensuring he reaches his potential. Anyone who isn’t on board to be his champion, probably isn’t going to work. Although a little twitchy they were all in agreement and know where I stand. Overall it was a good, positive meeting, run on friendly but professional terms. Most importantly I have hopefully got a good base for a strong working relationship and I got what I wanted for my boy. The next task is going to be an update for his new ECHP.
I know it can be emotionally and physically draining but you can all do it. Sometimes the system isn’t set up well enough to support us or our children but we all have it within us to get as much as we can. Some of you are true Superhero’s and get more than is ever thought possible.
Looking forward to our next How to be a Velvet Bulldozer workshop being hosted by Entrust Care Partnership on Thursday 23rd March in Leamington Spa.
(Credit to Sandy Row’s book, Surviving the Special Educational Needs System, How to be a Velvet Bulldozer for the workshop name inspiration)